A Memoir

Publication: May, 2011

Order here for a signed copy

or on Amazon worldwide
US  Canada  UK

Kindle Edition available on Amazon
Also available on Nook,  ibooks, Kobo, & Smashwords

Events          Excerpts          Additional Praise 

When Pat McMahon risks the love of the mother who raised him by seeking out the mother who gave him away, he transforms from a mild-mannered engineer into a frenetic detective. After he overcomes the challenges of existential angst, bureaucratic roadblocks, and unemployment, the phone call to his first mother releases a torrent of long-buried feelings. During a sometimes turbulent long-distance unfolding, he absorbs her shocking revelations and comes out as gay once again. Their eventual reunion creates a profound bond, even as he navigates waves of conflicting emotions, merges past with present, and embarks on a new future rooted in truth and insights into the universal quest for identity and human connection. He is Becoming Patrick.


"Be prepared for a treat. For it is rare to have a memoir by a male adoptee, especially one so sensitive to the many issues around being adopted. Becoming Patrick is a quintessential adoption story that is essential for everyone, adopted or not."
                       –– Betty Jean Lifton, author of Journey of the Adopted Self

“I liked this book so much that I read it twice. Patrick McMahon has a wonderful, lyrical writing style. As he searches for his identity and a more authentic life, Patrick is especially articulate and honest in expressing his thoughts and feelings. This is an intelligent, smooth-flowing story which I highly recommend it to one and all.”
                     --Nancy Verrier, author of The Primal Wound and Coming Home to Self


Price: $15.00
US shipping: $3
7.75% sales tax will be added for California residents

ISBN 978-0-9828019-0-1  310 pages
Size: 5.25 x 8 inches

Purchases may be made using Paypal, MC, Visa, American Express, Discover, and Bank Cards

For additional or international shipping charges or purchasing with check or money order, see Order Page

YouTube video of the book's opening pages

Listen to three audio excerpts (click on my name)

Interview on the Juneau Xena blogtalkradio show on Dec 7, 2011

Oct 7, 2011 radio interview on
Adoption Discussions, hosted by Donna Montalbano of WOON in Rhode Island

Interview on American Adoption Congress News and Views Blogtalkradio Sep 23, 2011

Audio interview for October 2011 Zenger's Newsmagazine cover/feature article

Watch a 2002 TV interview on San Diego FOX in the Morning about my search and reunion. (2.4mb download)




Amazon:  US  Canada  UK  France  Germany  Japan
Barnes &
      Powell's       Alibris

New Zealand:   The
South Africa:

Warwick's, 7812 Girard Ave., La Jolla, CA  (San Diego area)

The Grove, 3010 Juniper St., San Diego, CA
Bluestocking Books, 3817 5th Ave., San Diego, CA (special order)
The Obelisk, 1029 University Ave., San Diego, CA
Earth Song Bookstore, 1440 Camino Del Mar, Del Mar, CA  (San Diego area)
The Book Shop, 1007 B Street, Hayward, CA  (San Francisco area)

San Diego Public Library
Santa Clara County Libraries (San Francisco area)
Lewiston, Maine Public Library

Listed on: Goodreads  &   WorldCat (Libraries)

Contact Patrick




View and purchase
fine art photography


Learn about adoption
education and reform


Sit back
and enjoy the ride


Reflections on Adoption
Blank Note Cards



last update
14 January, 2013


site design: Patrick McMahon